I feel like the older I get, the harder the relationships in your life become.
It seems that as we get older we seem to crave drama and stress. We take offence to actions that are, in the scheme of things, quite small and insignificant. We settle for less than we deserve, whether it be the relationship with a partner, family or friends. It seems we would rather have relationships that don’t fulfil us or make us happy than go through the pain of leaving them behind.
As humans, we have one big flaw. We claim to want drama free, stress free lives when in actual fact, it is the complete opposite. We judge too quickly, take offence too soon, we don’t talk about what upsets us, instead letting small problems become mountains. We are capable of great love and compassion, but also of causing great pain. We defend, love, protect and we ostracise, ridicule and reject.
Life should be as simple and stress free as possible. Why as people can we not do this. It is something that frustrates and intrigues me. Every person wants this, yet we cannot stop ourselves from bringing drama or stress into our lives. I challenge anyone who reads this to the following:
Don’t worry about the small things, focus on what’s important. Remember how lucky you are to live with the luxuries many of us take for granted. Focus on the good in the people in your lives, not on the little things that they may do wrong. Say goodbye to the relationships that no longer make you happy. Mourn those relationships for a moment and then look to the future and know that you deserve nothing but the best!
As I get older, and now with a daughter to care for, more and more I want the drama free lifestyle. I want to be myself without upsetting others. I don’t want to walk on eggshells around anyone. So I choose to be with a partner that brings me nothing but happiness, have the friendships that fulfil me, and the family who love me.
As I’ve slowly let go of the relationships that only brought sadness or pain I have felt so much better, I have less anxiety, I have become more confident and a better person.
The key is to value what these relationships once brought to your life and be thankful for the lesson learnt.